Only the Covert opponent FriendRespect people , attacking the problem . Maybe make it pretty easy for us to understand this sentence . But when faced with a dispute or conflict situation , it is also hard to remember one of the principles of handling this conflict , let alone implement it . After all , we are only human .
When we quarrel or conflict with another person , it is easy for us to see the error of their own and forget that we also have a hand in the conflict . Easily we can consider this as opposed to the other party , rather than man. Moreover, coupled with emotions , we could have attacked the ' opponent ' , either verbally or physically .
But as humans we also always have a choice , including in the face of conflicts . We are free to choose ignored or avoided , argumentative / fist by the ' opponent ' or make the ' opponents ' as a friend to find solutions together .
Of course we have to ensure that the choices we make in accordance with the goals we want to achieve .
If indeed we want to make the problem of protracted and would rather get opponents than friends, we can choose to attack others . By attacking the ' opponents ' defensive we will make it so that there was a problem neglected or worse , even new problems could arise .
Take a look at this scenario .
A driver of a motor car to nudge you when you fall that way . Your clothes dirty , scuffed knees and hands , while your bike broken taillight . In fact you should be attending a meeting with the big boss and clients . 've Messed up everything ! With mounting frustration that you immediately berated the driver of the car and demanded to be responsible . The actual driver is ready to apologize surprised with your shedding and direct install stronghold . He also asks you to take responsibility for driving a motorcycle with a haphazard and make a dent in the bumper of his car while he had to rush home because of her illness . Nobody wants to give in because either the driver of the car and you both feel aggrieved and feel no guilt . Argument was unavoidable . Time goes by and your important meeting to begin. And when the atmosphere got hotter dispute mouth increased to a physical altercation . The people around you and also meleraikan before the driver battered . The police come and take you and the driver to the police station for examination .
A driver of a motor car to nudge you when you fall that way . Your clothes dirty , scuffed knees and hands , while your bike broken taillight . In fact you should be attending a meeting with the big boss and clients . 've Messed up everything ! With mounting frustration that you immediately berated the driver of the car and demanded to be responsible . The actual driver is ready to apologize surprised with your shedding and direct install stronghold . He also asks you to take responsibility for driving a motorcycle with a haphazard and make a dent in the bumper of his car while he had to rush home because of her illness . Nobody wants to give in because either the driver of the car and you both feel aggrieved and feel no guilt . Argument was unavoidable . Time goes by and your important meeting to begin. And when the atmosphere got hotter dispute mouth increased to a physical altercation . The people around you and also meleraikan before the driver battered . The police come and take you and the driver to the police station for examination .
Time wasted , and the problem is still far from complete . Never mind you missed an important meeting , blisters on hands and knees you have not treated your motor and rear lights are also not fixed . The process of examination at the police station is also time consuming and without an agreement between you and the driver of a solution has not been reached . The police officer was forced to take the middle ground and give the actual decision for your unsatisfactory .
Now let us look at the second scenario .
After accidentally rub against your motorcycle by a car , you went to the driver in good faith discussions to rectify the problem . Although you are very upset already rub against , you realize that you are also wrong because it slipped in when the car was going to turn . The driver of the car who was also upset because his bumper dented so thought better to get angry at the sight of your smile and good intentions . Dialogue ensued for understanding the causes of the accident and make a decision together for mutual benefit. You and the driver apologized to each other and mutually agree to bear the damage suffered each party . You and the driver also make this as a lesson to be more careful on the road . Fortunately , it appears that the driver of the car carrying P3K equipment that can help you treat abrasions from a fall earlier . You then immediately move on and get to the office on time for an important meeting .
The problem is completed in a short time without wasting unnecessary energy . Because when you humanize the ' opponents ' with respect and treat it as a friend , you give way to solve the problem together .
If we had the option to resolve the problem peacefully , why should you choose to let the protracted problem or create new problems without assurance that existing problems can be resolved ?
And if we had the option to get new friends , why should you choose to get your opponent ? Is not "1000 comrade is not enough , one opponent too much " ?
Run it does not translate as easily . But we will not know before trying , right?
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